Memorial Day: Memorializing a Day

This piece–a piece that commemorates the anniversary of the Fall of Saigon–is one that first appeared in Huffington Post.  Then it was re-run in DVAN–the Diasporic Vietnamese Arts Network.  I didn’t think it had a place in my detective blog.  But then I realized–duh!–this yarn is about a Vietnamese American detective…and so it has everything to do with him.  This is part of his story, too.  And it is a fitting story to think about during Memorial Day–a moment when we celebrate our armed forces.  

April 30, 1975

I often forget this day: the day my family became stateless people and began the process of drifting that would eventually have us wash up on the shores of these United States.  Today marks the anniversary of the evacuation of Vietnamese from what was once their home country:  a moment that dispersed us to far flung places—Paris and Berlin, Louisiana and Minnesota, Hong Kong and Manila.  We ended up in refugee camps and suburbs and bayous—so many different places, it is hard to imagine the sheer variety of circumstances such a major upheaval could precipitate:  like the phenotypes of plant life in the Amazon rain forest, each Vietnamese experience, after the Fall of Saigon, is stunning in its adaptations to micro-climates and sea changes.

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I’ve never really thought to commemorate this moment.  Indeed, my family never observes it, even though it is no doubt, a major milestone.  You see:  the first thing I learned about survival as a displaced person—as a cultural alien–was that people died if they looked back.  They turned into a pillar of salt.  It happened to my family chauffeur:  he was so sad about a lost love left behind, he drove his car into a tree.  It happened to a whole generation of old folks who still hold national Congresses to pick at a scab that will no longer give up blood.

But Facebook has allowed me to become connected with other people’s obsessions and, now, I see that a good portion of my Vietnamese American friends (those born in my generation, those who came over as babies) are observing this moment by replacing black-and-white images on their profile pictures:  at least for the flicker of a digital moment, they are embracing the trauma.  I wonder if this is precisely because they can now afford to look back?

I had two uncles:  both dashing, both military men.  One decided to go dancing; the other, to play tennis.  This was in the moments leading up to the Fall of Saigon.  And so they missed the boat, quite literally.  When they got home, everybody had left.  The house was empty. They ended up doing roughly two decades of hard labor in a reeducation camp.

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When they were finally freed, they immigrated to the United States.  One uncle got married to a young woman half his age from a region famous for beautiful, nubile women.  The other uncle never quite settled in; he always had a dreamy quality in his eyes, like someone always looking back:  a rheumatic look.  One uncle got fat.  The other, thin.  One uncle popped out children.  The other remained a bachelor.  He chain-smoked cigarettes and then died not long after he arrived in the United States.

Those uncles were always cautionary tales of my childhood:  people who loomed large and yet, paradoxically, were a physical non-presence in my life.  I didn’t meet them until my junior year of college.  Still, they were symbols of a conscious choice that had to be made:  to live in the past or to accept the present.  For me, it was a stark choice—like in that story “The lady or the tiger.”  You open one of two doors in life.  You walk into a room.  You have very little control over what you might find:  a beautiful woman or a terrible tiger.  You just wish that you will not enter a room in which you are consumed.

2 thoughts on “Memorial Day: Memorializing a Day

  1. Khanh – What a wonderful and thoughtful piece. It is, among many things, a reminder that we are (at least in part) products of our cultural histories and our groups’ stories.

    • Thank you, Margot. We are indeed a part of our histories and it is especially important to remember this aspect of our identities. Have a wonderful Memorial Day!

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